Have you attempted to use Jesus to get something from Him (to be a success, to be somebody)? The way through with Jesus is the way of the cross to humble ourselves before Him.
Has you been weighed in the balance and found wanting (or lacking) because you've not taken this walk with Jesus seriously and you've loved other things more than Him?
Pastor Ray goes to the story of the Samaritan woman at the well to ask the question of us are you thirsty for Jesus or do you have another lover (pleasure, entertainment, achievement, etc.)?